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Okay, so I knew there were some pretty extreme b d s m-ers; so I wasn't too surprised to see some really scary stuff posted here.
But now I am wondering: are there such people as non-extreme b d s m-ers? I'm beginning to feel like the only one who treats it as fun roleplay for sometimes; most of what I see here is people who seem to want to make it a full-time lifestyle. I see doms talking tough before they have even established a relationship -- which to me is backwards because the trust has to come first. I see subs who seem to want that kind of extreme toughness right away. I see the ads with the slogan, "the tighter, the better."
I also recall a reply to one of my other posts, in which a dom said he did not want to get involved with a switch. To me, that suggested he could dish it out but couldn't take it, which in my experience is the hallmark of a bully. Whereas everything I would do to a sub, I have been careful to try out on myself first, so I know exactly what I am doing to him. To me, that is just basic safety precautions. Someone who did something to me that he had never experienced could so easily cross the line beyond what is acceptable.
Where does that leave people like me? : Am I seriously the only one here who sees b d s m as one of many fun options to explore? : I always thought S-- was about two people experimenting, having fun; when it becomes too rigid, when it has to be a certain way, it isn't fun anymore.
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