Shewholovespain, 40

I am a 30 year old lesbian female. I have been interested in b d s m for quite some time now, however, I have never been able to find a mate that is willing to dominate me the way I want to be dominated. I am currently married and my wife doesn't know anything about my fantasies. I am looking for someone that is willing to dominate me and not hold back. I like to be humiliated and called dirty names. I am african american and in my community it is taboo to speak of these things. I just want to find someone that I can be myself with. I have spent my life playing the Dominant role in my relationships and I just want to reverse the roles.